We begin today our celebration
of the sacrament of baptism.
We pray for these children, set
them free from original sin
make them a temple of your glory
and send the Holy Spirit
to dwell with them.
We ask this through
Christ our Lord. Amen.
Look at Jenny with that baby.
Reject sin.
Don't start, Rose.
Start what?
You know.
Well, look at her.
And that clock has started
ticking. What's she waiting for?
A husband.
I know that, Eddie.
I just don't understand why
she hasn't found anybody yet.
Profess your faith
in Jesus Christ.
This is the faith of the church.
This is the faith in which these
children are about to baptized.
Do you reject Satan?
- I do.
- I do.
And all his empty promises?
- I do.
- I do.
And all his works?
- I do.
- I do.
You have to answer.
What if I don't
believe in Satan?
Or that all the works
attributed to him are evil?
Oh just answer, will you?
I do.
What was that all about?
I don't know.
She feels guilty
about something.
Guilty? About what?
I don't know.
But she feels guilty.
And the bread's
on top of the microwave
and it goes in the blue basket.
I know where
the bread goes, Mom.
I used to live here remember?
And I already
put it in the red basket.
But I always serve it
in the blue basket.
They're exactly the same.
But... they aren't.
They're two different colors.
Okay, I'll put
the bread in the blue basket.
Where's Jenny?
Who knows? Mom and I
are doing all this ourselves.
I offered to help.
But we don't
want your help, it's your day.
And it's almost done anyway.
Hey where you been?
I got somebody
I want you to meet.
I don't have time, I have to
help Mom and Anne with the food.
No you don't,
you can help us clean up.
All you have to do is say hello.
Hey Tommy, I want you
to meet my sister Jenny.
- Hi.
- It's nice to meet you.
Your brother has
told me so much about you.
Tommy just transferred here
from our New York office.
Oh, New York,
that's a big change.
But I'm sure
you'll love Cleveland.
It's got a very
rich cultural heritage.
Look I've
got to leave but, um...
would it be alright
if I called you sometime?
Yeah. Sure. Sure.
Yeah, don't bother calling.
Why not?
She won't call back.
Strike 43.
Oh, shut up, Anne.
I don't know why we keep trying.
That guy is cute.
If you keep on being so picky
you're going to end up alone.
You know...
did it ever occur to you
that I might actually
be in a relationship
with somebody?
No, are you?
It doesn't matter
if I am or I'm not.
Why does everybody
always assume I'm not?
Because you never bring anybody
home and you never mention it.
The only people we've
ever met are your roommate
and that pack of friends
you do everything with.
If there is somebody,
what's wrong with him?
He's married isn't he?
She said it?
No, but she didn't deny it.
And I could tell from her face.
Ah, I just don't believe
she'd do something like that.
I hope he doesn't have kids.
Do you know how long
it's been going on?
What are you
doing out there, Frankie?
Just making some phone calls.
She's not going
to tell me anything.
I have everything she wants.
2 kids and a husband.
I know.
I am not involved
with a married man.
Good.
Not that you're going
to do what I say anymore.
At your age what you do
is... is your business.
Like me. Sitting here.
Having a quiet smoke
that nobody needs to know about.
Have I ever told on you?
No.
That Anne has such a big mouth.
If she has to gossip
about something
she should at least
get her story straight.
You should leave Anne alone.
You don't know
what it's like being married
to a guy like Frankie.
I don't know what it's
like to be married at all.
You sound like
that's what you want.
Doesn't everybody?
I guess.
It's probably why
they don't always do it
for the right reasons.
What's the right reasons?
Somebody's got your back?
What are you a Marine?
No, it's because you...
you meet the right person.
And when you meet
the right person you...
you go the distance.
And let me tell you
about the distance.
Everybody changes.
But if you're with the
right person and they change...
you meet the right
person all over again.
Well, Anne did
get something right.
I am seeing somebody.
Yeah? Who?
Just somebody but...
it is the right person.
So when's the wedding?
I don't know.
And I'm cold. Going in, okay?
Okay.
Jenny?
Yeah?
Come here,
I want to talk to you.
Anne got it all wrong.
I told her she didn't
know anything about
my private life, not that
I was dating a married man.
Oh, well, I'm glad to hear that.
You believe me just like that?
Of course I believe you.
You never lie.
You know...
it's time for you to start
thinking about what you want.
- What?
- The china or the crystal.
I'm giving the silver
to Michael and Lorraine
so you and Anne have to decide
who wants the china
and who wants the crystal.
- You mean when you're dead?
- Yes.
I don't want to
have this conversation, Mom.
Well, maybe not
but this isn't something
you can just leave
'till the last minute.
What are you doing?
I'll drop the glasses.
I love you, Mom.
I love you too.
But if you don't let go
there won't be
any glasses to give away.
The truth is I'm hoping
you take the crystal.
Why?
Anne's like your father,
they're careless.
It'll all be broken in a month.
But you take care
of your things.
You're like me.
What makes you think the guy
isn't serious about her?
I don't know. She... she
didn't want to talk about it.
I'm a fireman,
you know, I know men.
I can hear these
guys on the phone
stringing these girls along.
I'm telling you,
even if she's ready
this guy hasn't
stepped up to the plate
and she doesn't
think he's going to.
I wonder why she didn't tell me.
Oh, she didn't really
tell me, it just kind of...
slipped out,
and then she was sorry it did.
She's always been so secretive.
Not when she was little.
She was really open
when she was little.
Yeah. She was.
I wonder what happened.
Who knows?
Uh-oh. Potato chips?
Bad time at the old homestead?
It was okay.
You didn't have the traditional
fight with your sister?
No, but we came close.
She told everyone
I was dating a married man.
Oh, and your brother didn't
try to fix you up again?
He did.
With a very cute guy this time.
I need to talk to you.
Well, I hope you
want to talk about
getting another roommate in here
because I don't think
I can afford this place
much longer if we don't.
No, that's not it.
I've decided...
I want to get married.
Wow.
And have a family.
I never thought
I would hear you say that.
What happened?
I was talking with my dad
tonight and the things he said
it... it made me realize
how much I'm missing.
Did you tell him
who you want to marry?
No.
Well, don't you think
you should tell them
you're marrying me
before the ceremony?
Marian's daughter
is back in rehab.
Son-in-law disappeared and
they have the grandchildren.
Poor Marian.
It's her own fault,
she never put the time in.
We've been lucky
with our kids, Ellen.
It wasn't luck.
It was hard work.
Who else is gonna
teach them right from wrong?
This would look
good on Anne. I'll get two.
How are she and Frankie doing?
Oh, the same,
and she has to put up
with that family of his too.
That girl's
got her crosses to bear.
Has Karen found a job?
Oh, not yet.
It's hard with two kids.
I said I'd take care of them,
but she is a good mother.
She wants to be with them.
What about Bobby?
Well, he can't take
a job while he's trying
to raise money
to open his own repair shop.
It takes all his energy.
But at least they
are a happy couple
and that's the most
important thing. How's Jenny?
Jenny's fine.
And I think
she's finally found someone.
- No! Is it serious?
- I think it is.
She said she wants to
talk to us about something.
Then it's serious.
The guy's a bum,
that's all I know.
How do you know that?
Because we haven't met him.
What kind of guy doesn't want to
meet his girlfriend's family?
A bum. What's he do?
I don't know.
She doesn't talk about him.
I don't even know his name.
Anyway she does say she's got
something important to tell us.
Well it sounds like this
is it. He popped the question.
Maybe.
It could be okay, Eddie.
Jenny's a good girl.
You know, you gotta
lose some weight.
Why? I don't
climb ladders anymore.
They'll bust you.
Yeah, well.
You coming over
for a drink later?
Ellen and I wouldn't
miss your anniversary party.
Little taste.
More onions.
Okay. I'll see ya later.
Alright.
No, I'm not okay.
I'm still... carsick.
Once it starts
it just doesn't stop.
You're not carsick, you're
just afraid to go in there.
So what if I am?
So you won't be able to do this
if you're going
in ashamed of who you are.
I'm not, I'm not
ashamed of who I am.
You always say that,
but I'm still kind of confused
as to why you've told
everybody except your family.
Because they live in a small
world and they like it in there
and I've just never
found the right time to...
drop the bomb.
You've been lying
for a long time.
That's what you're
really afraid of.
When you tell them it's gonna
change the way they see you.
You need to do this on your own.
- What?
- It's between you and your parents.
I'll just be in the way.
Just call me when it's done.
Jenny?
- Yeah. It's me.
- Yeah I know.
Ah, where's Kitty?
Oh, she... she had
to go cause there was, um...
an emergency
at the school. Yeah, I think.
- What kind of emergency?
- A flood.
A flood? What's she
gonna do about a flood?
I don't know.
Happy anniversary.
Oh, thank you.
- Alright, come on.
- Okay.
Jenny's here everybody.
- Jenny's here.
- Oh! Finally Jenny's here.
- Ta-da!
- Jenny.
Where's Kitty?
Ah, she had to take care
of a flood at the school.
What does Kitty
know about floods?
Can I talk to you upstairs?
There's something
I need to tell you.
Please say something, Jenny.
We thought you were going to
tell us you're getting married.
But it doesn't
look like that now.
What happened, honey,
did you break up?
No.
Then what is it?
What do you want to tell me?
This isn't gonna
be easy for you.
- Are you sick?
- No.
Then what is it, honey?
What could possibly
be so hard for me?
I'm gay.
What?
I'm gay, Mom.
You're...
What?
I'm a lesbian.
I'm gay.
But...
But what about the guy?
There is no guy.
There's never been a guy.
All these years... you
made them up and I...
I just went along with it.
But...
But I don't... I don't...
I don't understand.
Um.
How long have you known this?
- Always.
- And I missed it?
How did... how could I
miss something like this?
You wanted to. You didn't
want to know and I knew that.
Didn't you ever wonder
why you never met
any of these boyfriends?
Ah, you always broke up
with them before I could.
No, I didn't.
I just... let you think
what you wanted to think.
I thought you were...
You were waiting. I...
For what?
I thought...
- What did we do wrong?
- Nothing.
You didn't do anything wrong.
This is just... how I am.
But you're...
But you're...
You're like me, you know?
We even like the same things.
I always, I always
thought you were like me.
That hasn't changed.
I am like you.
I'm still the same person, Mom.
No.
You're not.
You've been
lying to me for years.
Your father will have to know
and you should tell him.
I was going to
tell you both at the same time
but everybody was staring at me.
He needs to know before, uh...
Before I tell everybody else.
You're telling other people?
I have to tell Anne and Michael.
I'm going to tell everybody.
Kitty and I want
to get married, Mom.
You're marrying your roommate?
She's not my roommate.
We've been partners
for five years now and...
we want to start a family.
A family?
Yeah. It's what you're
always talking about, isn't it?
And we want a big wedding.
With everybody there.
Friends and family.
We want a wedding like
Anne and Michael had.
I want... I want
you and Dad to give me away.
Do what you're gonna do.
But I'm asking you,
for my sake...
not to tell everybody else.
Not yet.
Why?
'Cause if you do nothing
will ever be the same again.
Nothing is
the same anymore, Mom.
Maybe not for you but...
but your life isn't here anymore
and if you don't like
what happens you can go away.
I can't.
This place, these people,
they're my life
and I have to stay here.
I have to live with them.
Oh, I love you, Jenny.
Nothing could ever change that.
But I have a life too and you
can't just change my life on me.
It's not like
I'm living in the past, I'm not.
I know times have changed,
anything goes these days.
I read the papers, I watch TV.
But...
But I don't know personally,
anybody in this neighborhood
whose children have...
you know...
- Maybe they all left.
- What?
The neighborhood, maybe
they left the neighborhood.
I'm sure they did.
And the lying, all that lying.
Even though I know
why you did it
it's still
a hard pill to swallow.
And now a wedding.
Starting a family.
I mean... we're... we're
ordinary people
not, you know... rebels.
Neither am I.
I just want
what you gave Anne and Michael.
I only did this because of you.
What?
You told me
if you meet the right person
you should go
the distance, and I did.
I met the right person.
Kitty.
That's why I asked her to marry
me and now you're asking me
to hide it from my own family.
If you tell them
you'll hurt your mother.
If I don't it will hurt me.
What would you do?
I don't know.
Will someone please
tell me what's going on here?
- You really wanna know?
- Why else would I ask?
The married man and I broke up.
I knew I was right about that.
How come?
He decided to
stay with his wife.
Well, I'm sorry, Jens. But he
sounds like a bastard to me.
I think you dodged a bullet.
You don't want to
spend the rest of your life
living with a liar do you?
No. But sometimes
you have to.
I'll fill the water glasses.
I knew I was
right about the married man.
Well?
- You did it.
- I did it.
Are you... okay?
Yeah.
Even though I lied to my sister.
I am.
Thanks.
Telling my parents feels like...
being let out of prison.
Look, if you've
changed your mind
about getting married...
I'm okay with that.
Why would I change
my mind about getting married?
Your family. I know how
important they are to you.
No. My family
is not marrying you, I am.
And I have never
been more certain
about anything in my entire life
than I am about marrying you.
I wonder who proposed.
She did.
She did.
She said, "Kitty,
will you marry me?"
"Kitty let's start a family."
All these years
living a secret life.
I thought I knew her.
Then I find out
I don't know her at all.
She's...
She's the same person.
She just left
a few things out, that's all.
Oh, Eddie, what she
left out is who she is.
Being private
isn't the same as lying.
Well, you just
asked her to keep on lying
so let's stop
talking about the lying part.
I never asked her to lie.
All I did was ask her
not to tell everybody.
She didn't have to lie to Anne.
And... and now that she's ready
to tell the whole world
the truth, we're just supposed
to go along with it.
You remember our daughter Jenny,
don't you?
Well, guess what, she's a
completely different person.
Well, let's just drop it okay
because you know, she's doing what you
wanted her to do and that's that.
We have a life too, don't we?
Yes.
This isn't just about her.
No.
What do you think
I should have done?
All you can do...
is what you do.
What?
All you can do is what you do.
What does that mean?
It means what it means.
Hello?
Hi, Mom. It's me.
Jenny. How are you?
- I'm good, how are you?
- I'm fine.
How are things?
Great. Things are great.
How are things with you?
Things are great.
Well. I... I better go.
Okay, dear. Have a nice day.
You have a nice day too.
I love you.
Love you too.
Why are we doing this?
I'm freezing.
It was your idea
to get more exercise.
No it wasn't. It was Jenny's.
Okay I'm done.
How is Jenny by the way?
Jenny. Jenny's fine.
She looked strange
at your anniversary party.
Did she?
Unhappy.
I didn't see it.
Anne told Karen
about the married man.
Anne has a big mouth.
They weren't gossiping.
Our girls are like sisters.
Did you ever meet him?
No.
Well, at least it's over.
Anyway, that's what Karen said.
- It is, isn't it?
- What?
- Over.
- Yes.
Why are you acting so weird?
How am I acting weird?
All secretive.
Like, I'm sticking my nose
in your business.
We've been talking
to each other about everything
for 45 years and
Jenny is like one of my own.
I know that, Ellen. I know.
Then why are you
acting like I'm a busybody?
I'm upset.
About the married man.
It's probably just a phase.
Is it somebody she works with?
Not her boss?
No, not her boss.
It's another...
Another social worker.
- Any kids?
- No, no kids, let's go.
Well, that's a blessing.
Oh, don't worry too much, Rose.
She's gonna be fine,
she's got you.
Dad. What are you doing here?
Well, I was in the neighborhood.
You never come over here.
Well, I, uh...
I had to buy some equipment.
What kind of equipment
do they sell around here?
Well, you know,
just equipment stuff.
It's not worth talking about.
You wanna have some lunch
or is this a bad time for you?
No, I'm starving...
and it is always
a bad time around here.
The last stop for kids
nobody wants
and... I'm supposed
to find homes for them all.
Well, you always do.
You have too high
an opinion of me, Dad.
Michael's coming around to help
re-build the fence next week.
- Yeah, he mentioned that.
- Yeah.
What about Anne and Frankie,
you seen them?
Not in a couple of weeks.
They're, um, they're going
away next weekend
they asked us
to look after the kids.
But we've got
the bowling tournament so, uh...
so I guess they'll ask,
uh, Michael and Lorraine.
They asked us.
Well, those kids
are crazy about you.
No, it's Kitty that they love.
She's really fantastic
with kids.
So, uh, it's almost Turkey Day.
Your favorite holiday.
Yeah, I hope I can cook
one as good as Mom does.
Well, you're... you're
gonna cook your own?
Yeah.
Yeah, Kitty and I are gonna have
a couple friends over.
So... what do you want, Jenny?
What do I want?
Don't you know?
Ribs.
- What?
- Yeah.
I know how much you love ribs.
I was thinking maybe,
you know, Chinese
but if you want ribs,
I'm happy with that.
Yeah, yeah, ribs.
Let's do ribs then.
- Okay.
- Okay.
Come on.
She's always been here
for Thanksgiving.
Not this year.
I don't get what you mean
when you say...
she looks happy.
I mean, she looks happy.
What else does happy mean,
it means happy.
How can she be happy
with everything that's going on?
This is bad, Rose.
What's bad?
Wanting her to be unhappy.
I don't want her to be unhappy.
Why would I want that?
Because we are.
I couldn't believe
that they're screaming.
"My baby, my baby,"
I climb all the way up
to the top of the stairs,
and all I find is a dead cat.
- Jesus.
- Who was that?
The two bull dykes
on the top floor.
- Don't call them that.
- What?
Bull dykes,
don't call them bull dykes.
- Why not?
- Because they're people.
That's why.
People like you and me.
Oh, I'm sorry,
I should have said
the two bull people
on the top floor.
- What's eating him?
- Bobby, just let it go.
Eddie. Eddie, listen.
Ellen told me what Jenny wanted
to talk to you guys about.
- I'm sorry.
- How does Ellen know?
Stuff gets around,
but, you know, I'll be there
if you ever want to punch
this asshole's lights out.
Punch Kitty?
The married guy's name is Kitty?
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Ted... Ted Kitty.
- Mrs. Farrell?
- Oh, my God!
- Barbara Ellen, you scared me!
- I'm so sorry.
- Do you remember me?
- Of course, I remember you.
You went to school with Jenny.
And you didn't scare me, I was
just staring at this dress.
It's beautiful, isn't it?
It's not right on me.
- You're getting married?
- Yeah.
I'm meeting my mother inside.
How's Jenny?
Jenny is just great.
I haven't seen her
since high school.
- Is she married?
- No. No, she isn't.
No, she's just, ugh,
completely caught up...
in her career, she's, um,
she's a social worker.
She handles
very disturbed children.
Complicated cases, the ones
no one else can touch.
She's wonderful at it.
I guess some women
are just like that.
Like what?
More caught up in their work
than their emotions.
Born career gals.
I... I don't, I don't know
what makes you think that...
career gals don't have emotions.
Jenny is picky,
uh, even about food.
But she has strong emotions
and not throwing herself
at the first person that comes
along is a sign of character.
- Not a lack of emotion.
- I'm sure.
The... the truth is, Jenny
is... is... is very involved
with a highly respected man
in her field
and, uh, I wouldn't be surprised
if it led to a wedding.
So you don't need
to worry about Jenny.
- I wasn't.
- No, no, of course not.
Why would you be?
You know, my mother's waiting
for me inside.
Mrs. Farrell, so I better go.
It was very nice to see you,
Barbara Ellen. All the best.
Thank you, Mrs. Farrell.
- You're late.
- I know.
- You take 90?
- Yeah.
- What time?
- 4:30.
You never take 90 after 4:00,
you know that.
Always take Carnegie.
- It's longer.
- Less traffic.
I always take
Carnegie after 4:00.
It's my fault, isn't it?
You're the one who took 90.
I mean Jenny. It's my fault.
I know they say,
it's how you're born now
but... I don't know, I wonder.
And I was her role model.
I'm what she's rejecting.
Now, don't hog
all the glory, Rose.
I'm the man she grew up around.
If she's rejecting anybody,
it's me.
- I know you.
- Excuse me?
I know you,
and I know what you're thinking.
What's that?
You're blaming me.
- What for?
- The lying!
I'm not blaming you for lying.
I'm... I'm just doing
what you wanna do.
- Why do you keep saying that?
- Because it's true.
Then, ugh.
Then let's do
what you want to do, Eddie.
You never say what you wanna do.
What do you want to do, Eddie?
I want... I want to eat
my dinner in peace and quiet.
- That's what I want to do.
- No, it isn't!
You... you... you want me
to be the bad guy
that's what you want.
It's always been that way.
I look like the bad guy
when all I'm doing is exactly
what you want to do, but I end
up getting blamed for it!
I kind of like that
it's not white.
Looks like a cantaloupe.
What about that?
Oh, my gosh, that dress
would be perfect on you.
- Jenny!
- I love that. I love it.
All these dresses
are so beautiful.
Well, you gotta pick
the one you love the best
because you
only get married once.
- Oh, my gosh, I love this one.
- Hmm.
This is the dress for me.
I love this.
I never thought
we'd be doing this.
- Did you?
- No.
I may have grown up
in a trailer park, Bryce
but I'm warning you...
if I don't get
Worthing divorcer in the
everyone will know
about your past.
Hello?
Anne. What're you doing here?
Are you busy?
No, just ironing.
Camilla told Bryce...
if she doesn't get
Worthington Manor
in the divorce settlement,
she'll expose his past.
I saw Jenny this morning.
- Oh, yeah. Where?
- Nordstrom.
Oh, was there a sale?
No. Something happened.
I don't know
if I should tell you
but... I figured somebody else
will sooner or later
so it's better
if it comes from me.
She was outside
the bridal suite with Kitty.
They're a couple, Mom.
They were kissing
each other in public.
I should have
gone up to them, but I...
was so blown away, I couldn't
and then I didn't know
what to do. If I should, if I
should tell you or not tell you.
And then I thought, well, you should
know before anybody else does.
How could we have
missed it all these years?
No boyfriends, hanging out with
all those girls all the time.
And it looked like they were
picking out wedding dresses, Mom.
Wedding dresses!
They probably were.
They're getting married.
What?
They're getting married.
- You knew about them?
- Yeah.
Since when?
Since...
our anniversary party.
So all that stuff about the
married man was a pack of lies?
It...
It wasn't the truth.
You two and your conspiracies.
Conspiracies?
When we were growing up,
you and little miss perfect
belonged to a club
I couldn't join.
It didn't bother Michael,
he was the boy.
But I was the outsider
and I still am.
You were never the outsider
even when you wanted to be.
- Wanted to be!
- You were always testing us.
Breaking the rules to see
what would happen.
- Jenny was easy. - You have never
loved me as much as you love Jenny!
That is not true!
- Oh, I love all my children the same.
- No, you don't!
God, if you did you wouldn't
have lied to me.
You made a fool out me!
Letting me go on and on about
all that married man bullshit
just to keep your secrets!
As usual,
the two of you against me.
What kind of love is that!
Mom.
Whatever you've got to tell me
you gotta tell me fast.
I've got to be in court in an
hour, and you wouldn't believe it
this couple left their
5-year-old son
locked in their apartment
while they went on vacation.
- And now of course they want...
- Anne knows.
- Knows what?
- About you and Kitty.
She saw you this morning
at Nordstrom.
She's... she's very angry
about being lied to.
I know I got it wrong, I know.
But ever since
you were a little girl...
I've thought about your wedding.
I imagined helping you pick out
your silver and flatware
your china and helping
you pick out your dress.
Now, I don't even know
if you'll wear a dress.
Maybe you'll wear a suit or, or maybe you'll
wear a dress and Kitty will wear a suit...
We're both wearing dresses.
And where will you get married?
Not in the church,
the church won't allow it.
But that doesn't mean
God won't allow it.
The thing is...
I'm not good
at making things up.
When I cook I use a cookbook.
And the way you dance, I don't...
I don't like dancing, like that.
I... I like steps. I like,
I like dances with steps.
Like, that one,
you know that one...
- The conga line?
- Yeah.
It doesn't have steps.
Well, but I always
do the same ones.
I love the conga line.
I know the steps to that one
but I don't know
the steps to this one.
And you think I do? Really?
I don't like making it up as I
go along any more than you do.
But I don't have a choice.
Oh, Mom, you can pretend all you
want, that nothing has changed.
But I have.
And I'm not lying about who I am
to anybody, ever again.
Not even for you.
Because if I do...
I'll ruin what's good in me.
You... you raised me
to... to do the right thing.
And... and be proud of myself.
Don't you want me
to be that person anymore?
The lying is over.
You and Dad are going to have
to make up your mind about me
because I am getting married...
and I'm going to have children.
I'm going to have
a happy and full life.
And I'm not hiding it... anymore.
So if you can't handle that it'll have to
be your problem from now on. Not mine.
- You knew?
- Well, I...
I mean, not for sure,
but yeah, I knew.
Since when?
High school.
Well, then why were you always trying
to set me up with your friends?
Mom and Dad asked me to.
Well in case you're wondering
they are not coming
to the wedding.
And you don't have to either
if you don't want to.
Why wouldn't I want
to come to your wedding?
Because it doesn't stop there.
We want a family,
and I'm sure you do not approve.
God, Jenny.
Sometimes you are really dim.
I mean, has it ever
occurred to you
that if you spend your life, lying
to people about who you are...
you never get to know
who they are.
Look, I don't disapprove. Okay?
I'm coming to your wedding.
You're my sister.
You know, I just, I really
was dreading telling you.
Why? - Because you're... you're
the most like Mom and Dad.
No, I'm not, Jenny.
You are.
So?
- I'm sorry.
- For what, being the favorite?
What?
Do you think you'd be getting
away with this if you weren't?
First of all,
this isn't a stunt, Anne.
This is my life.
Secondly, I'm not getting away
with anything.
I am nobody's favorite,
not anymore.
So you need to just,
get over it.
Feeling unloved is not
something you just get over.
Yes. It is.
You just have to grow up.
Why did you come here, Jenny,
to pick a fight?
No.
No, I...
I wanted to say
I was sorry for not telling you.
I wanted to, but Mom,
couldn't handle it.
We're sisters! Why didn't
you tell me years ago?
Come on, Anne. We never really
shared our secrets with one another.
And for good reason.
Instead of just coming to me
when you saw me with Kitty
you ran straight to Mom.
Fair enough.
- Can I come in?
- No.
You'll over excite the kids,
and Frankie's asleep.
But have a seat.
So there's something
I want to ask you...
My wedding gown won't fit you.
I don't want
to wear your wedding gown.
Um, I wanted to know if you
would be my maid of honor.
If you don't want to, it's okay
but, it would mean a lot to me
if you would.
You want me to be
your maid of honor?
Well, yeah.
I was yours,
and you're my sister.
I know, but...
I don't know.
I always felt like...
you acted like
I wasn't in your league.
Anne... it was never that.
Okay, it was never that.
I just... I was in hiding.
And I just really couldn't
afford to get close to you.
Dad!
I, uh, I can't
talk about this... right now.
I have to go.
Okay.
- I'll call you later, okay?
- Mm-hmm.
How long have you been
with Kitty?
5 years.
When I saw you kissing,
you looked really...
really happy.
That grass is completely dead.
It's winter.
Yeah, I know, but...
It's always dead.
Even in the spring.
Dad! Dad!
I gotta go.
Frankie!
What are you doing?
I don't have any cash.
Get it out of the bank
like I do. I'm not an ATM.
Why are you all dressed up?
Where are you going?
Um, didn't I tell you?
Pete called.
He wants to talk to me
about something.
Business probably.
Business?
You and Pete
are unarmed security guards.
Don't wait up. You know Pete.
Why don't you ever
water the grass?
Why would I water the grass
in the winter?
Because you never water it even in
the summer and it's always dead.
Okay, if it bothers you
so much, why don't you water it?
Because it's not my job! I do
everything else around here!
You could at least do that!
I gotta go.
I don't understand
why she hasn't called.
I've left 6 messages,
you've left 4.
- 5.
- 5.
Ah, just things went
a little too far, that's all.
She'll call when she calms down.
You weren't there, Eddie.
I've never seen her like that.
No, no. She'll calm down.
What's she gonna do?
Never call us again? Hmm?
I don't, I don't want
to go in there.
I want you here.
Hi, everybody.
- Kitty.
- Hi. Mrs. Farrell, Mr. Farrell.
Jen.
When you didn't call back,
I didn't think you were coming.
Of course I was coming.
Mrs. McMahan was my favorite
neighbor.
Kitty, you remember
Mr. and Mrs. O'Leary.
Oh, yes.
Yes, nice to see you again.
Nice to see you, Kitty.
- Kitty is Jenny's roommate.
- Oh, right.
Kitty isn't my roommate,
Mrs. O'Leary.
She is my partner,
and we've been together 5 years.
We're getting married.
We're a little bit old fashioned
so we figured
we'd tie the knot before
starting a family.
Um, can I talk to you a minute?
- I was just gonna go in...
- I want to talk first.
What are you doing? Are you
trying to hurt your mother?
How am I hurting her?
By making a scene at a funeral.
Stutzman's is a place for grief.
If you want to humiliate your mother,
go try and do it someplace else.
I'm sorry if telling people who I
am and how I live is humiliating.
But I am not gonna pretend to be somebody
else anymore just to make you feel okay.
Why is it always about you?
It's about her too.
We called you over and over
again, why didn't you reply?
How do you think she felt when you walked
away from her in the arcade the other day?
Why is it always about her?
Isn't there a you in this?
Why don't you stop
hiding behind Mom
and tell me how it's about you?
Well, I will, I will
tell you about how I feel.
It's not how I live.
I don't understand any of it.
And I don't understand you.
You're, you're getting married,
but I..
I don't know who's who.
- Who's who?
- Yeah, yeah.
You're both feminine girls.
And I don't know.
I don't know who's,
I don't know what you do.
- What we do?
- And I don't want to.
I just, I mean,
you're my daughter and..
I just don't want
to think about it.
I mean, I spend enough time at
that firehouse. Men are animals.
It's what they think about when
they look at porno movies.
But if, if you were marrying a guy, I wouldn't
think about it. I'd know what you do.
When I was a kid, I used to hate
to think about you and Mom in bed.
It gave me the creeps,
so I think I know how you feel.
Let me put your mind at rest.
Hey, Kitty.
My dad wants to know if one of
us straps it on in bed.
Oh, I'm sorry, Dad.
She's a little bit funny.
She doesn't like to tell people
what she does or doesn't do in bed!
I don't know
who you are anymore.
And I don't know if I care.
What's happened to you?
I'll tell you
what's happened. I grew up.
I used to care so much about
what the two of you thought
but not anymore. Why would I!
How dare you talk to me
about meeting the right person.
Do you know who you meet every
time you or Mom change?
The same couple
of lying cowards.
From now on, I only care about
what I think and what I do.
And if you don't like it,
then you can get out of my life.
Believe me, I will not miss you,
it will be a relief.
If all you can do is tolerate me
I will be happier
when you're gone.
Well, uh, it was
nice... seeing you all again.
I have to go.
Your mother will come around.
No, she won't.
They never do or say anything
without the other
and now he'll never come around.
Give him time.
You don't know him.
He lets a lot of stuff go
but... I called him out tonight.
I...I made him look like a fool
in public and now he'll never
get over that, and he hardly
ever shuts the door
but when he does it,
it stays shut.
Not that I care.
Because I'm not apologizing
to anybody for anything.
We have to talk
about this, Eddie.
I already told you.
I got nothing to say.
I'm not trying to defend her.
She said ter...
Rose. Are you deaf?
I just told you, I've got
nothing to say. I mean it.
So don't bring it up
with me again. Ever.
Rose.
Rose.
Rose.
Hi, Ellen. Hi.
I've been so worried.
I left messages all week,
but you never called back.
- Are you okay?
- I'm fine.
Oh, how can you be fine after that
disgraceful incident at Stutzman's?
The things she said
were... unforgivable.
I just hope you're not blaming
yourselves for any of this
because you've both
been great parents.
Did you know about them before?
We knew before.
I'd have lied about
the married man too.
Well, you're doing
the right thing.
What am I doing?
Turning your back on all of it.
I can't talk now, Ellen,
I have to go.
Christmas will be hard,
but just remember
you're doing the right thing.
And any time you want to talk,
I'm right here.
Hey, Eddie. How you doing?
Yeah. I'm fine.
Um...
Did you tell the guys what happened
at Stutzman's the other day?
No. Come on, Eddie.
I'd never talk about your private
business with anybody. You know that.
They don't,
they don't know anything.
Listen, Eddie, I gotta tell you.
I... I think
this whole thing stinks.
As good as you
and Rose have been
this is the way Jenny
turns around and pays you back?
Yeah. I don't wanna
talk about it.
No. Okay.
You know, it's funny.
Her name is Kitty.
- What?
- The girl's name is Kitty.
I mean, first Jenny was with a
married man, and his name was Kitty.
Now, her name is Kitty.
- Hello.
- Hi, honey.
Ugh. Hi, Mom. What's up?
Uh, nothing, I just
called to see how you are.
- Fine, and you?
- I'm fine. How are the kids?
- Fine.
- And uh, Frankie?
Frankie's fine.
Mom, did you call for a reason
'cause I'm standing in
the driveway, and it's raining.
And I have a pile of groceries
and a sleeping baby.
No. No reason, it's not
raining here yet though.
I... I... I just called
to say hello.
Okay. I'll call you back
later.
- I love you, Anne.
- Yeah, okay, bye.
Okay. What do you think?
It's perfect.
I've always dreamed
of wearing a dress like this.
Oh, you look beautiful.
Oh, wow.
Well, now I don't know
who looks more beautiful.
Is this a double wedding?
Yes.
Well, then I'll leave
you two alone to think.
I know you'll want to come back
with your mothers.
This dress isn't right.
It's not right.
It's too traditional.
Well, what's wrong
with traditional?
You want to wear the tux?
My mother's
not here either, Jenny.
I know.
Your mother's in Portland.
Mine is 20 minutes up
the road in rush hour traffic.
- Tell me something. - If it's about Mom,
I don't want to hear it.
It's not about Mom.
I know you live in a condo,
but if you had grass
would it be dead or alive?
It would be alive.
Just as I thought.
Happy people
do not have dead grass.
I quit the bowling team.
Why?
They're talking behind my back.
Can you do that?
- Do what? - Quit the bowling team.
You're the treasurer.
Yes. I can do that.
Don't you want to know what
they're saying behind my back?
No.
You can't
just not talk about this, Eddie.
We've lost our daughter!
- Hello.
- Hi, Anne. It's me.
- Ugh. Hi, Mom. How are you?
- I'm fine.
Doing a little... house work.
How are you?
Oh, I'm fine.
How about Frankie
and the kids? They okay?
They're-they're fine.
Have you seen, uh, Michael
and Lorraine at all?
Oh, for God's sake, Mom, if you want to
know how Jenny is, call her. Don't call me.
I know that's
what all these calls are about.
Listen, there's something
I... I... I have to do.
I'll... I'll
call you later, okay?
- Okay. I love you, Anne.
- Oh, my God.
Will you please stop saying that, it's
turned into your personal greeting!
I'm sorry.
I just wanted you to know.
Uh, yeah. I know, I know,
I know, I know.
We all love each other,
and I have to go. Goodbye.
And they never
talk about it. Not a word.
I wouldn't either
if it was my daughter.
They were such good parents.
Well, they must have done
something wrong.
We've all had problems with
our kids, but nothing like this.
I really feel sorry for them.
And this wedding
is embarrassing enough
but those two are planning
on having children.
How can they have a normal life
growing up in that house?
It isn't right.
Since when did you two become such big
experts on what's normal and right?
Rose.
We didn't mean anything.
We're just worried about you.
Tell me, Marion.
Is it normal and right
for your, your daughter
to get pregnant
by every passing stranger
and leave you to raise the kids?
Or for... for... for Karen and her
bum of a husband to never get a job
and... and rob you and Denny
of every last penny
of your retirement savings!
That's all normal and right just
because the men sleep with women!
And the women sleep with men!
But Jenny, who is... who is.
...Who is...
is generous and kind
and has never hurt anyone...
isn't normal and right, because she
wants to marry the woman she loves.
Jenny is good. And I love her.
And the only thing that
isn't normal and right is...
is me turning my back on that.
Oh, my...
- Hello.
- It's Mom.
Can you come down?
I saw a dress.
Months ago,
I saw a wedding dress.
I knew you'd look good in.
You still might be
able to get it.
I'm sorry, Jenny.
I'm so sorry for all of it.
And if you'll let me. I'd like to
help you pick out your wedding dress.
I want to be
part of your marriage.
I want to be part of everything
you do for the rest of your life.
You're late.
You take 90 again?
- No. I took Carnegie.
- Oh, well.
Traffic on Carnegie can be
pretty bad after 3:00 too.
I wasn't stuck in traffic.
I was with Jenny.
I want us to be
a part of the wedding.
We've always done everything together
for as long as we've been married.
But... I'll do this alone
if I have to.
- At least talk to me about it.
- No.
No.
No, you've made your choice,
I've made mine.
I don't want to explain
it to anybody.
What are you
so happy about, Eddie?
- What?
- Nothing. Just a joke.
Why isn't Denny O'Leary
here today?
He changed his shift yesterday.
How come?
I don't know.
Said it was personal.
I've been on with him since
we were probies together.
Lieutenant said he asked to change his
shift and wouldn't take no for an answer.
I've known him since we were
in first grade together.
- Oh, yeah?
- Yeah.
That's a long time.
Yeah. It is.
- What is that?
- Oh, look, you're awake.
- What?
- Get up. I want to show you something.
Are you crazy? Do you have any idea
what time I went to bed last night?
I said, get up. Look outside.
- At what?
- The grass.
What about the grass?
It's green.
You think I care what color
the grass is?
No. I don't.
- What are you doing?
- Packing your stuff.
You're moving out. - What?
I don't want to be married
to you anymore.
I would leave, but I don't think
it's good to move the kids
so you have to go.
Come on, Anne, I know things
haven't been that...
Stop. I'm not interested
in anything you have to say.
You can't just kick me out
without talking about it.
Why would we start talking
now. We haven't talked in years!
'Cause I have a right to know
why you're doing this.
The grass.
- The grass?
- Yes.
When I looked at the dead grass,
I realized, I was unhappy.
Happy people
don't have dead grass.
And... and then it was like,
the chicken and the egg.
I couldn't figure out
which came first.
Happiness or green grass.
So I started watering it.
And the more I started watering
it, the happier I felt.
And then it came back to life.
I don't blame you
for kicking Frankie out.
The guy's a bum.
But you know, grass is grass.
No, it's not.
You don't have dead grass.
Michael doesn't have dead grass.
- No.
- Happy people don't.
And I never saw it until Jenny
came over and she was so happy.
I saw the dead grass
for the first time.
I'll be right back.
I just have to change my order.
She wouldn't have dead grass
any more than you would, Dad.
She doesn't settle
for less either.
I don't know
where to seat anyone.
We're having twice
as many as we planned on having.
I know.
Does it really matter?
Isn't everyone just
gonna be moving around anyway?
Yeah.
It's my father's birthday today.
- Oh, yeah?
- Yeah.
They're throwing a party for him
at my parents' house.
- I'm gonna take a break, okay?
- Sure.
He should know.
I should tell him.
Michael should tell him.
He's the one doing it.
I don't want to put,
I don't want to...
What are you guys talking about?
Nothing.
Are you sure?
Yeah. No, I'll, uh,
I'll tell him.
Hey, listen, Dad...
uh, Jenny asked me
to walk her down the aisle.
And I said yes.
- What are you staring at?
- Nothing.
I saw Rose leave for
the wedding. She looked pretty.
That is not a real wedding.
Okay. I saw them leave
for the fake wedding.
No sign of Eddie.
Well, at least he's got
his head screwed on right.
Honey.
We were there the night
Jenny was born.
We'd always thought
that we'd be at her wedding.
What makes you think
two women getting dressed up
in wedding gowns and prancing
down some hotel aisle
is the same as getting married?
Jenny does.
What?
Jenny makes me think it.
What are you doing here?
I saw you drive up and uh...
door was unlocked so...
Look, um...
Maybe Ellen deserved it.
I mean, we both know
how she can get.
But you know, Rose said
some bad things to her and...
when something
really bothers me...
I'm like you.
You know, I... I dig in.
We've known each other
a long time and...
if I don't dig myself out...
I lose.
And that's why I'm here.
To dig myself out.
How do you do that?
I don't know.
I never had to do it before.
I guess I start with me,
I mean...
And that's why I'm here.
To dig myself out of me.
Are you sure
that this isn't too much?
- This dress isn't too much?
- It's a beautiful dress.
- Okay.
- Look... Eddie!
I... I don't know
if you want me here, but uh...
I decided to come.
Why wouldn't I want you here?
Well, I, uh, I... I...
I turned my back on you.
Oh, Dad, I...
I know how hard it is for you
to accept who I am, and...
I lied for so long,
and then... and then...
I said those horrible things
and I... I made you angry.
No, no, no.
This has nothing to do with it.
I... I wasn't angry. I...
I walked away because uh...
Uh, because I was hurt.
You said you wanted me
out of your life
and you'd be relieved
when I was gone.
You said... you said you, uh...
you wouldn't miss me.
Me.
You wouldn't miss me.
I'm your dad.
Nobody has ever loved you more
than me, and nobody ever will.
How could you not miss me?
You see...
when, um...
when people hurt me, I... I...
I... I don't talk
about it. I...
I walk away.
I always walk away.
But, uh...
I can't walk away from you.
So... if that's okay...
You're my daughter.
A-and I would like
to walk you down the aisle.
Living in a moment
I would die for.
These words best describe
every minute of everyday
of the last five years.
That's why I'm standing in front
of our family and our friends...
but most importantly,
in front of you...
and in the presence of God
to vow to be
your faithfully committed
lifetime companion.
Do you know what I mean
about the grass, Aaron?
Yes, I do.
When I move away
and sell that house...
that grass will die
and I know it will.
But my grass...
the grass that is inside
of me will always be green.
- Do you know what I mean?
- I do.
- Are you a lesbian?
- No.
Good.
That's mine.
Okay, everybody. This is it.
It's time for the conga line.
Oh, my God.
I love the conga line.